How do you take a compliment?

Being able to accept a compliment will go along way to creating the mindset to be slim.  Many of the people I work with find it hard to take a compliment.

How do you respond when someone pays you a compliment?

 Often it can be easy to say ‘This old thing, I’ve had it years’, when someone compliments you on a lovely outfit.  I had one client who hated it if someone said to her ‘You look great, have you lost weight?’  Her internal thought straight away went to: “Well, how fat did you think I was?” Although she didn’t actually say this to her friend, it was always her first thought.  I had another client whose husband regularly told her she looked good and she often responded “You must be blind”.  They had been married for over 25 years and her husband was still telling her she looked nice.  Imagine how it must have felt for him to get his compliment sent flying back each time.

From today I’d like you to think of a compliment as a present/gift.  If a person gives you a present you would usually say ’thank you’, not ‘Why did you give me this load of junk, you can have it back’!  A response that tries to negate the compliment isn’t very nice for the giver.  From now on, when you receive a compliment, thank the giver and return the compliment with a smile.  I even suggest you practice your answer so it feels more natural to say ‘Thank you, how kind of you to notice’, or ‘Thank you, I really love this dress myself’.

I’d even go one further and suggest you make a habit of giving yourself  a compliment.  Look in the mirror (yes I know for many this is difficult in itself and we’ll talk about this in future blogs), but look in the mirror and find something you like about yourself.  It may be your sparlking eyes, or the fact you are a good Mum.  By reminding yourself of all your good points, whether about your physical appearance or about your personality it will help you feel good.  When we feel good we are more likely to look after ourselves.  When we look after ourself we are more likely to eat healthily, and only eat when we are physically hungry.  And when we do this, guess what?  Yes, that’s right, we are more likely to slim to a healthy weight.

You are amazing.  How do I know, if I don’t know you?  Because I believe everyone is amazing in their own way.  So take compliments in the way are given – as a small gift to help you remember how amazing you are. 

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Until next time,